Specialized dating websites are quite familiar to most Orthodox singles. Frumster (now ‘JWed’) and Saw You at Sinai are dating websites dedicated primarily to Orthodox Jews looking for a likeminded mate. By now, the websites’ specialized categories that singles use to define themselves – and what they are looking for in a spouse – have become a part of our everyday parlance. ‘Modern Orthodox Machmir (strict)’, ‘Modern Orthodox Liberal’, and ‘Modern Orthodox Centrist’ are terms that singles use to narrow the field of potential spouses even further.
The highly specialized dating website has become increasingly popular in the wider culture as well. Are you gluten free, and tired of explaining your diet on dates? Try GlutenFree Singles, a specialized dating website for – you guessed it – gluten free singles. Interested in living on a farm? Check out the Farmers Only dating website, whose tagline is “City Folks just don’t get it.” There is even a dating website for devotees of Ayn Rand’s famous novel ‘Atlas Shrugged’ and her Objectivist philosophy. (Angela Chen, Wall Street Journal, Finding Love With a Farmer, a Gluten-Free Eater or Ayn Rand Fan, Oct. 15, 2013)
It is essential to share similar outlooks on life with one’s spouse, and to have common goals. Opposites attract, but those who share similar ideals have a greater likelihood of fewer conflicts down the road, and an increased likelihood of long term happiness.
On the other hand, one who seeks the ‘perfect’ partner who matches up entirely with his or her dating checklist is likely to experience significant frustration. Human beings are too unique, too different in a myriad of ways, to satisfy every last requirement of a picky dater’s checklist.
The author, Rachel Simon, describes how […]